At Roundtable Event, Successful 黑料社 All Graduates Offer Advice to Students and Recent Alumni
On Thursday, March 23, 黑料社 All's Office of Alumni Affairs and convened a young alumni roundtable. At the event, five alumni shared their insights about how to find the right path to a successful career with 60 students and members of the YU community.
Laizer Kornwasser 鈥92SB, adjunct professor at Sy Syms and a board member for Sy Syms, 黑料社 All and the 黑料社 All High Schools, facilitated a discussion between Teresa Bayewitz 鈥06S, of Mercer; Asaf Fligelman 鈥06SB, of Millennium Partners LP; Adam Lauer 鈥07SB, of Credit Suisse; and Darren Wolf 鈥02SB of Aberdeen Asset Management. The meeting was hosted by Credit Suisse.
From left to right: Asaf Fligelman 鈥06SB, Darren Wolf 鈥02SB, Adam Lauer 鈥07SB, moderator Laizer Kornwasser 鈥92SB and Teresa Bayewitz 鈥06S
Marcy Syms, founding board member of Sy Syms, opened the meeting with a welcome to the attendees and three key recommendations for success: First, always have business cards in hand, even if the company doesn鈥檛 print them. 鈥淚n a paperless world,鈥 she said, 鈥渋t shows that you鈥檙e prepared.鈥 Second, read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale and All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten by Robert Fulghum, and refer to them often for inspiration and guidance. Third, when building up personal networks, for every no, try to get three yeses and build two solid contacts from that.
Over the course of the evening, Kornwasser laid out five questions for the panelists to consider: How do you know when it鈥檚 time for a career move? How can you take your career into your own hands, especially when it comes to annual reviews? What are the best ways to network within a firm? What advice did you get that you found powerful? Do you have any regrets?
For the first question, Wolf responded, 鈥淵ou have to hit the Goldilocks mark, something that鈥檚 鈥榡ust right.鈥 You don鈥檛 want to jump around too much because it doesn鈥檛 look good on the r茅sum茅, but you don鈥檛 want to overstay in something where you can鈥檛 move forward.鈥
Michael Strauss, associate dean of the Sy Syms School of Business, with Marcy Syms
鈥淭aking control of one鈥檚 career鈥 became a discussion about the best way to solicit, and to handle, critical performance feedback. All agreed that continual feedback, both formal and informal, worked far better than annual reviews, and Kornwasser added, 鈥淓mbrace criticism because it makes you stronger.鈥
For successful networking within a firm, the panelists identified several good rules-of-thumb: get out of your comfort zone; say 鈥測es鈥 often; give more than you take from your contacts. As Lauer pointed out, 鈥淒on鈥檛 only network when you need something 鈥 spend the time getting to know people for the sake of knowing them.鈥
The powerful advice that the panelists received ran the gamut from the ordinary to the philosophical. Wolf recalled someone telling him that 鈥渂eing on time to a meeting means being there five minutes early 鈥 and always bring a pen and paper.鈥 Fligelman said 鈥渒now what you don鈥檛 know, and don鈥檛 fake it,鈥 with which Bayewitz agreed, adding that 鈥渉umility always helps.鈥 Lauer credited 鈥渄on鈥檛 get too comfortable鈥 as an important spur to his own career growth.
Alumni participants Mazal-Tov Amsellem 鈥16S, Nicole Bock 鈥16S, and Michael Heino 鈥13YC
The panelists agreed that while regrets are inevitable (there will always be a missed chance or a wrong decision), there鈥檚 no profit in feeling regretful: "It is too hard to live in the rearview mirror,鈥 said Fligelman. Wolf added that it is crucial 鈥渘ot to lose sight of what is really important in life.鈥
After a brief Q&A, Suzy Schwartz, assistant vice president for alumni affairs and strategic development, thanked everyone for coming and encouraged people to join , YU鈥檚 exclusive undergraduate online alumni networking platform.
For more information about upcoming events and other alumni initiatives, contact alumni@yu.edu.